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theniftyfifties:

Sophia Loren

theniftyfifties:

Sophia Loren

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teramerapyar:

microaggressions:

In a lift in a Hong Kong hotel. A Caucasian woman thanked me for holding the door open for her. In badly pronounced Chinese. I kept quiet. Then she got off at her level and wished me good evening, also in bad Chinese.

I’m Indonesian of Chinese descent, and I don’t like it when people immediately assume that I can’t understand English. I’m 20, Hong Kong. Made me feel very annoyed.

This person would have a point if this incident happened in America. But this person is a CHINESE person upset that someone tried to speak to her in CHINESE in motherfucking CHINA. COME THE FUCK ON. This is stupid, whinging rubbish. I bet if the woman had tried English, she would have felt microaggressed because a white person was in China and hadn’t tried to learn the language.

(Source: microaggressions, via kadalkavithaigal)



The ironing

the-mu:

microaggressions:

In a lift in a Hong Kong hotel. A Caucasian woman thanked me for holding the door open for her. In badly pronounced Chinese. I kept quiet. Then she got off at her level and wished me good evening, also in bad Chinese.

I’m Indonesian of Chinese descent, and I don’t like it when people immediately assume that I can’t understand English. I’m 20, Hong Kong. Made me feel very annoyed.

um

you just assumed this person knows english because they are caucasian

(Source: microaggressions, via bigallymcdeal)



saltmarshhag:

ghostofvangoghsear:

This is SO fucking cute. A 90 year old lesbian couple. They’ve been together for 65 years! Now that is love.
“ After 65 years, these two women just keep on “enjoying each other’s company.”  How many “straight couples” have been together through 12 different presidential administrations?  Carey Leto, 90, and Venera Magazzu, 92, now living together in Tampa, Fla., will celebrate their 65 year old relationship this summer with a trip back to New York City, where their union began.”
“Together since “the Great Depression”

TELL US STORIES

This is lovely

saltmarshhag:

ghostofvangoghsear:

This is SO fucking cute. A 90 year old lesbian couple. They’ve been together for 65 years! Now that is love.

 After 65 years, these two women just keep on “enjoying each other’s company.”  How many “straight couples” have been together through 12 different presidential administrations?  Carey Leto, 90, and Venera Magazzu, 92, now living together in Tampa, Fla., will celebrate their 65 year old relationship this summer with a trip back to New York City, where their union began.”

Together since “the Great Depression”

TELL US STORIES

This is lovely

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fckyeahprettyafricans:

(Algeria)

fckyeahprettyafricans:

(Algeria)

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"Oh god, no! I would never DATE a woman!" 


Girl at a party, who told me she was bisexual. I’d asked her if the girl she’d been talking to was her partner. (via microaggressions)

are you fucking kidding me

(via thelefthandedwifeisundercover)

I hereby revoke your bisexual card. 

(via ladonnapietra)

I get that her phrasing is an issue, but it’s not exactly a bizarre phenomenon that bisexuality doesn’t necessarily translate into wanting the same things from either gender (assuming a duality for convenience’s sake). I know a woman who has sex with men often, but she’s utterly uninterested in dating men, and has only dated women in the ten years I’ve known her—and not ‘cause she didn’t like the guys she hooked up with enough, she just doesn’t like relationships with men. I personally have a much wider range of attraction to women than men—I just find them more aesthetically appealing—yet I tend to be somewhat more attracted to men in general than women. By chance and circumstance, I’ve never had sex with a woman—now, obviously, none of you are uninformed enough to think that keeps me from being bisexual. But what’s the grand difference between that and someone who wants to fuck but not date a given gender? What if the speaker had been a bi man? Would the reaction be the same?

(via 14kgoldnyc)

I know I’ve had this conversation before in regards to Lady Gaga, but I think that people get edgy about things like this (myself included) because it confirms a lot of the negative stereotypes that bisexuals have to work against in LGBTQ spaces. I know that theoretically it shouldn’t be a problem, but there are real practical consequences to that sort of attitude and sometimes people who actually have to deal with these things get cranky about it. Things like that are the reason that some lesbians won’t date bisexuals and I know its not fair to blame it all on that attitude and not on self-righteous gayer-than-thou attitudes, but goddammit, hearing things like this gets old.

The way I look at it, bisexual is an identity. You chose whether or not to identify as a bisexual and that identity is something separate from your actions. Dudes who cruise men’s bathrooms may be participating in homosexual sexual acts, but if they go home to their wives at night and tell everyone that they’re straight, well then, for all intents and purposes, they’re straight. Sexuality is fluid as we all know, but identity is what we use to try and make sense out of it. It’s a framework that helps us organize the world and see out place in it. You can fuck women without calling yourself bisexual, so I just kind of feel that if you’re not going to participate fully in the community you should probably step to the side—or at least not say shit that contributes to bierasure.

(via thusspakekate)

Kate, I love you, but I will never agree with you on this.

Its really not up to you to decide who gets to call themselves bi and who doesn’t. You can’t kick someone out of the queer label because they might not split entirely evenly on their desire for a particular gender.

(via anedumacation)

Yeah. I mean, people can call themselves bisexual if they want to, and you don’t have to date to be queer. That’s ridiculous, sorry. The reason this is a microaggression is not because it reinforces fucked up anti-bisexual stereotypes (cause I really don’t think it’s up to marginalized people to fight their own stereotypes) but because of the wording. Instead of “I’m not really into dating women actually” it’s “SHOCK!HORROR!DISBELIEF! I would never!” at the mere SUGGESTION of dating women, despite identifying as bi. At least that’s how I’m interpreting this.

(via youarenotyou)

This is the problem with having labels in the first place.  We create these labels then we set up ‘rules’ about what each label entails and if people don’t live up to what we define them as we jump on them for not being authentic and/or ignorant.  So that seems like one of the major problems here.  However, I am having a hard time understanding how this woman is bisexual and not simply bicurious or just interested in sleeping with whomever she wants.  I mean really sleep with who you want.  I have no issue with that.  And call yourself whatever you want that’s your business.  But statements like this confuse and upset me.  It’s like women are only good enough for her to sleep with.  Any actual connection, dating, etc beyond the bedroom is unthinkable and that’s sad.  I mean you don’t have to date women, that’s fine.  But just realize that your sexual relationships with them are somewhat exploitative (even if your partner is ok with that).  I don’t know.  This is a touchy subject.  I think it brings up our own biases.  I definitely am holding back from my full feelings about this.

(via agradschoolbreakup)

If she had said that she was only intestered in dating women but enjoyed sleeping with men, would you still believe it’s wrong for her to call herself bisexual? That she was being “exploitative”?

I’m not defending the assholish way she communicated her lack of romantic attraction to women. But you make it sound as though people like me (“heteroromantic” bisexuals) are the way we are because we hate women. And I know that for me that is far from true.

(via eternal-daydreamer)

In regards to your first statement asking would I think she was being exploitative if she were just sleeping with men but having relationships with women: YES I WOULD.  Hands down I would.  Others may not, but I most definitely would.  Again, if you just want to sleep with people and not have relationships with them FINE.  Honestly, there is nothing wrong with that.  But the way she says it makes it seem like the only thing she is interested in is exploitative relationships (which again her partners may be fine with). 

And I don’t think I said anything that made it seem like I thought she hated women.  So I apologize but I don’t understand your point there.  I did say I thought she was exploitative but that does not mean I believe exploitative = hatred.  I mean, we all exploit the earth but I wouldn’t say I hated earth nor would I presume anyone else did.  Exploitation is mistreatment but not necessarily deep ‘hatred’.  So I’m sorry if my words appear like that, know that that was not my intention at all.  I do not believe that in any part. 

And lastly, this is my ignorance but I have no idea what “heteroromatic” bisexuality is.  I mean I understand the words and could guess but I have never heard of that.  Care to explain your reasoning?  (And I don’t mean this in a confrontational way, truly.  I really just have no idea what you mean by it. )

——

Perhaps “hate” was too strong of a word to use, but what I took from your post (especially “It’s like women are only good enough for her to sleep with”) was that you believe women like her must see women as inferior to and less valuable than men, rather than that she was simply born without emotional attraction to women.

Hetero-romantic is a word popularized by the asexual community, who believe in the concept of “romantic orientation” as seperate from sexual orientation. Many of them identify as “homoromantic asexual”, “biromantic asexual”, etc. I don’t usually use the word as part of my identity, as I’m fine with just calling myself bisexual. But it was faster to type than bisexuals-who-are-not-emotionally-attracted-to-the-same-gender….

I’ve always been sexually attracted to women, since I was really young. But girls have never brought me the butterflies that guys have. I don’t know why. That’s just the way I am. I know that if I ever do find a girl who makes my heart skip a beat though, I won’t avoid her just because of her gender.

(via eternal-daydreamer)

Ah, I see.  And I see how my words could have been read like that so I apologize for that, it was not my intention.  I should have said she was only interested in sexual relationships rather than other relationship forms.  And I suppose to me I put more value or personal interest in relationships that take place outside of the bedroom.   But my opinion doesn’t really matter.  From the way the woman said “I would never date a woman” it felt (to me) like SHE was saying that women were only useful to her in the bedroom. So then that’s why I made the statement I did.  But again, I do apologize for how my words may have sounded. 

And thank you for the definition!  I honestly had not heard of it, but you explained it beautifully. 

(via agradschoolbreakup)

You’re welcome. :) And yeah she was a real betch about it. A “no, she is not my partner” would have sufficed…. No need for her to be dramatic about it.

(Source: microaggressions, via phdreamsanddenials)



fuckyeahethnicwomen:

badass~~

fuckyeahethnicwomen:

badass~~

(Source: spicytaco)



"Oh god, no! I would never DATE a woman!" 


Girl at a party, who told me she was bisexual. I’d asked her if the girl she’d been talking to was her partner. (via microaggressions)

are you fucking kidding me

(via thelefthandedwifeisundercover)

I hereby revoke your bisexual card. 

(via ladonnapietra)

I get that her phrasing is an issue, but it’s not exactly a bizarre phenomenon that bisexuality doesn’t necessarily translate into wanting the same things from either gender (assuming a duality for convenience’s sake). I know a woman who has sex with men often, but she’s utterly uninterested in dating men, and has only dated women in the ten years I’ve known her—and not ‘cause she didn’t like the guys she hooked up with enough, she just doesn’t like relationships with men. I personally have a much wider range of attraction to women than men—I just find them more aesthetically appealing—yet I tend to be somewhat more attracted to men in general than women. By chance and circumstance, I’ve never had sex with a woman—now, obviously, none of you are uninformed enough to think that keeps me from being bisexual. But what’s the grand difference between that and someone who wants to fuck but not date a given gender? What if the speaker had been a bi man? Would the reaction be the same?

(via 14kgoldnyc)

I know I’ve had this conversation before in regards to Lady Gaga, but I think that people get edgy about things like this (myself included) because it confirms a lot of the negative stereotypes that bisexuals have to work against in LGBTQ spaces. I know that theoretically it shouldn’t be a problem, but there are real practical consequences to that sort of attitude and sometimes people who actually have to deal with these things get cranky about it. Things like that are the reason that some lesbians won’t date bisexuals and I know its not fair to blame it all on that attitude and not on self-righteous gayer-than-thou attitudes, but goddammit, hearing things like this gets old.

The way I look at it, bisexual is an identity. You chose whether or not to identify as a bisexual and that identity is something separate from your actions. Dudes who cruise men’s bathrooms may be participating in homosexual sexual acts, but if they go home to their wives at night and tell everyone that they’re straight, well then, for all intents and purposes, they’re straight. Sexuality is fluid as we all know, but identity is what we use to try and make sense out of it. It’s a framework that helps us organize the world and see out place in it. You can fuck women without calling yourself bisexual, so I just kind of feel that if you’re not going to participate fully in the community you should probably step to the side—or at least not say shit that contributes to bierasure.

(via thusspakekate)

Kate, I love you, but I will never agree with you on this.

Its really not up to you to decide who gets to call themselves bi and who doesn’t. You can’t kick someone out of the queer label because they might not split entirely evenly on their desire for a particular gender.

(via anedumacation)

Yeah. I mean, people can call themselves bisexual if they want to, and you don’t have to date to be queer. That’s ridiculous, sorry. The reason this is a microaggression is not because it reinforces fucked up anti-bisexual stereotypes (cause I really don’t think it’s up to marginalized people to fight their own stereotypes) but because of the wording. Instead of “I’m not really into dating women actually” it’s “SHOCK!HORROR!DISBELIEF! I would never!” at the mere SUGGESTION of dating women, despite identifying as bi. At least that’s how I’m interpreting this.

(via youarenotyou)

This is the problem with having labels in the first place.  We create these labels then we set up ‘rules’ about what each label entails and if people don’t live up to what we define them as we jump on them for not being authentic and/or ignorant.  So that seems like one of the major problems here.  However, I am having a hard time understanding how this woman is bisexual and not simply bicurious or just interested in sleeping with whomever she wants.  I mean really sleep with who you want.  I have no issue with that.  And call yourself whatever you want that’s your business.  But statements like this confuse and upset me.  It’s like women are only good enough for her to sleep with.  Any actual connection, dating, etc beyond the bedroom is unthinkable and that’s sad.  I mean you don’t have to date women, that’s fine.  But just realize that your sexual relationships with them are somewhat exploitative (even if your partner is ok with that).  I don’t know.  This is a touchy subject.  I think it brings up our own biases.  I definitely am holding back from my full feelings about this.

(via agradschoolbreakup)

If she had said that she was only intestered in dating women but enjoyed sleeping with men, would you still believe it’s wrong for her to call herself bisexual? That she was being “exploitative”?

I’m not defending the assholish way she communicated her lack of romantic attraction to women. But you make it sound as though people like me (“heteroromantic” bisexuals) are the way we are because we hate women. And I know that for me that is far from true.

(via eternal-daydreamer)

In regards to your first statement asking would I think she was being exploitative if she were just sleeping with men but having relationships with women: YES I WOULD.  Hands down I would.  Others may not, but I most definitely would.  Again, if you just want to sleep with people and not have relationships with them FINE.  Honestly, there is nothing wrong with that.  But the way she says it makes it seem like the only thing she is interested in is exploitative relationships (which again her partners may be fine with). 

And I don’t think I said anything that made it seem like I thought she hated women.  So I apologize but I don’t understand your point there.  I did say I thought she was exploitative but that does not mean I believe exploitative = hatred.  I mean, we all exploit the earth but I wouldn’t say I hated earth nor would I presume anyone else did.  Exploitation is mistreatment but not necessarily deep ‘hatred’.  So I’m sorry if my words appear like that, know that that was not my intention at all.  I do not believe that in any part. 

And lastly, this is my ignorance but I have no idea what “heteroromatic” bisexuality is.  I mean I understand the words and could guess but I have never heard of that.  Care to explain your reasoning?  (And I don’t mean this in a confrontational way, truly.  I really just have no idea what you mean by it. )

——

Perhaps “hate” was too strong of a word to use, but what I took from your post (especially “It’s like women are only good enough for her to sleep with”) was that you believe women like her must see women as inferior to and less valuable than men, rather than that she was simply born without emotional attraction to women.

Hetero-romantic is a word popularized by the asexual community, who believe in the concept of “romantic orientation” as seperate from sexual orientation. Many of them identify as “homoromantic asexual”, “biromantic asexual”, etc. I don’t usually use the word as part of my identity, as I’m fine with just calling myself bisexual. But it was faster to type than bisexuals-who-are-not-emotionally-attracted-to-the-same-gender….

I’ve always been sexually attracted to women, since I was really young. But girls have never brought me the butterflies that guys have. I don’t know why. That’s just the way I am. I know that if I ever do find a girl who makes my heart skip a beat though, I won’t avoid her just because of her gender.

(Source: microaggressions, via phdreamsanddenials)



kilele:

Adioukrou Queen Mother
“In Ghana, the display of gold at the Ashanti’s king jubilee in 1995 was unsurpassed in splendor. This Adioukrou Queen mother, attending the jubilee, indicates her status by wearing gold turtle and crocodile talismans in her hair. Bedecked with gold jewelry and gold dust makeup, she exhibits her husband’s authority and worth.”
Photo by Carol Beckwith and Angela Fisher

Amazing

kilele:

Adioukrou Queen Mother

“In Ghana, the display of gold at the Ashanti’s king jubilee in 1995 was unsurpassed in splendor. This Adioukrou Queen mother, attending the jubilee, indicates her status by wearing gold turtle and crocodile talismans in her hair. Bedecked with gold jewelry and gold dust makeup, she exhibits her husband’s authority and worth.”

Photo by Carol Beckwith and Angela Fisher

Amazing

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